Here's another very personal episode. If you're looking for sales, startup, and business advice, skip this episode, it's not going to be a good use of your time.
If you want to get to know me better as a human being, particularly some of my private struggles and the inner work I do, then maybe this is for you. However, be aware that it's another raw recording: an unstructured, meandering conversation without a clear ending or an actionable takeaway.
I talk about my challenges with happines, visiting an alternative healer, never feeling at home anywhere, and many other things I'd usually not share publicly.
So why am I sharing it now?
For one, look at the name of the podcast. What you hear in this recording is inner work in progress—and that's not always pretty.
And secondly, it's easier to share this now with you because this was recorded in the last week of July—and a lot has happened since. I do feel happy. I have a vision for a place that I'll make my home where I truly feel at home. I'm much more in touch with my own feelings.
And finally, after I published Episode 31: Listening to myself: A bad day many of you told me that sharing my inner struggles helped you.
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I'm highly self-critical by nature, often to a fault. A good amount of the inner work I've been doing over the past 2 years has been about reigning that part of myself in. But now that I'm exploring the IFS (Internal Family Systems) I had a realization: While my inner critic has been the dominant voice in my head for most of my life... I don't actually know much about this part of myself. Shownotes: https://steliefti.com/who-is-my-inner-critic/ Connect with me: https://steliefti.com https://twitter.com/steli https://www.linkedin.com/in/steliefti/ ...
While homeschooling my two sons, I witnessed my younger one just in the midst of that special phase where you learn to read and begin to make sense of words. And I (once more) realized the importance of fun: When teaching a new skill, don't stress out about getting it right and avoiding mistakes. Don't constantly correct every mistake. Instead, teach how to have fun with that skill, and afterwards the momentum of fun carries you forward like a stone rolling downhill, rather than it being an uphill battle. Shownotes: https://steliefti.com/fatherhood-odyssey-teach-fun-first/ Connect with me: https://steliefti.com https://twitter.com/steli https://www.linkedin.com/in/steliefti/ ...
What you most reject is what holds the greatest potential for growth. Whether it's a feeling you don't want to feel, a person with whom you have a challenging relationship—it's typically what you want to avoid that reveals your deep truths. Which is one of the reasons why I try to embrace life's perfect imperfections and practice doing my inner work. When I wake up feeling down for no good reason at all, and nothing that I do gets me out of that funky state? Not the yoga, not the meditation, not the espresso, not going for a walk, not listening to music, not a conversation with a good friend. Rather than trying to not feel that feeling, or to "get over it", I try to embrace it. Work with it. Listen to what it has to teach me, and try to find my way of flowing in the stream of life. Shownotes: https://steliefti.com/lifes-perfect-imperfection/ Connect with me: https://steliefti.com https://twitter.com/steli https://www.linkedin.com/in/steliefti/ ...