094: Fatherhood Odyssey - What My Son’s Neediness Taught Me About Myself

August 15, 2021 00:23:12
094: Fatherhood Odyssey - What My Son’s Neediness Taught Me About Myself
Inner Work with Steli Efti
094: Fatherhood Odyssey - What My Son’s Neediness Taught Me About Myself
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My youngest son has a seemingly insatiable desire for attention from his mom. Sometimes it escalates into awkward neediness, and it hurt me seeing my son feel this way. I tried to step in and "save" him from feeling this way—but to no avail. Only his mom's attention would do. And recently, I wondered: Why does this affect me so much?

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