115: Study Less, Do More: The Surprising Truths IFS Revealed

November 28, 2021 00:39:01
115: Study Less, Do More: The Surprising Truths IFS Revealed
Inner Work with Steli Efti
115: Study Less, Do More: The Surprising Truths IFS Revealed
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I've now been studying Internal Family Systems (IFS) for a long time, and it's taught me so much about myself that I decided to take an online course on it. But I don't really want to learn more about IFS to know IFS. I want to learn more about IFS so I can use it for my own inner work. And so rather than mastering the theory of more aspects of IFS, I decided to instead really focus on applying what I learned to myself, and just do one exercise I found particularly helpful again and again—and it led to some surprising discoveries about myself. 

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