Inner Work with Steli Efti

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November 04, 2021 00:32:00
108: Magic Mornings: The Power of the Day’s First Hour

108: Magic Mornings: The Power of the Day’s First Hour

How do you design your optimal morning? Every night as we sleep and dream, we enter a profoundly altered state of consciousness, we process and integrate our experiences of the day. Rather than immediately jumping into tackling tasks for the day, or distracting yourself with social media, build a set of morning rituals that become your transition from being asleep to being awake.  Shownotes: https://steliefti.com/magic-mornings/ Connect with me: https://steliefti.com  https://twitter.com/steli  https://www.linkedin.com/in/steliefti/  ...

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October 27, 2021 00:57:57
107: The Unequal Equilibrium of Giving & Taking in Our Relationships

107: The Unequal Equilibrium of Giving & Taking in Our Relationships

Apotomos is a Greek word that describes a person who always appears calm, keeps everything bottled up inside, and then at some point, when they can't take it anymore, they suddenly erupt like a vulcano in anger. One of my brothers is that kind of person. Very giving, very generous, gladly sacrificing his time or energy. Until eventually he realizes that the other person is not so much appreciating all these sacrifices, but rather expects them, and typically is unwilling to do the same for him. In this episode, I talk about this dynamic, unspoken expectations, what to do when we realize we're living out the same pattern in our relationships again and again, and that what a person learns is much more dependant on the student than the teacher. Shownotes: https://steliefti.com/giving-and-taking-in-relationships/ Connect with me: https://steliefti.com  https://twitter.com/steli  https://www.linkedin.com/in/steliefti/  ...

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October 17, 2021 00:27:46
106: Should You Do X? Only if It Gives You Energy

106: Should You Do X? Only if It Gives You Energy

It's so easy to lose yourself in all the things you "should be doing". It's so easy to come up with an endless list of things that would be good for your career, your wealth, your well-being. But if you do all these things, more often than not you'll end up climbing a ladder that leads you to the wrong place. There's a better way of choosing what you do: Do more of what gives you energy. Shownotes: https://steliefti.com/should-you-do-x/  Connect with me: https://steliefti.com  https://twitter.com/steli  https://www.linkedin.com/in/steliefti/  ...

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October 15, 2021 00:23:47
105: Embracing Life’s Perfect Imperfection

105: Embracing Life’s Perfect Imperfection

What you most reject is what holds the greatest potential for growth. Whether it's a feeling you don't want to feel, a person with whom you have a challenging relationship—it's typically what you want to avoid that reveals your deep truths. Which is one of the reasons why I try to embrace life's perfect imperfections and practice doing my inner work. When I wake up feeling down for no good reason at all, and nothing that I do gets me out of that funky state? Not the yoga, not the meditation, not the espresso, not going for a walk, not listening to music, not a conversation with a good friend. Rather than trying to not feel that feeling, or to "get over it", I try to embrace it. Work with it. Listen to what it has to teach me, and try to find my way of flowing in the stream of life.  Shownotes: https://steliefti.com/lifes-perfect-imperfection/  Connect with me: https://steliefti.com  https://twitter.com/steli  https://www.linkedin.com/in/steliefti/  ...

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October 06, 2021 00:14:18
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104: Fixing Other People’s Problems Instead of Dealing With Your Own

Imagine having a friend with a drinking problem. You can clearly see they're on a path that'll lead them down a bad road. You offer your help and invite them to stay with you in your home. You'll take care of them so that they can get their life together. Except, that your friend doesn't think they have a drinking problem. But you insist and convince them to accept your help. You house and feed them, find books, set them up with coaches and support groups... only to find that they keep drinking in your room while you're out working.  What do you think are the chances that this will actually end up helping your friend? And more importantly: What inner work are you avoiding in your own life by dedicating yourself to this unsolicited rescue mission? Shownotes: https://steliefti.com/fixing-other-peoples-problems/  Connect with me: https://steliefti.com  https://twitter.com/steli  https://www.linkedin.com/in/steliefti/  ...

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October 02, 2021 00:17:00
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103: My Fear of Stagnation: What if I Stop Changing and Evolving?

Every year I want to change, evolve, level up. I hate stagnation, fear it. There's nothing more terrifying to me than the thought that I could have peaked already, that it's never going to be more than what is now. I still think that the wish to evolve and grow is fine. But being terrified of the possibility that this won't happen? What good does that do? So in this episode, I ponder the question whether I should try to make peace with the possibility that maybe there won't be any next levels for me. I also want to be the kind of person that has something to offer: whether that's entertaining stories, enlightening conversation, or valuable advice. When I meet friends, I feel a desire to give them something—even if it's just a good time. But sometimes being with friends is just about that: spending time together, without feeling responsible for making it a great time. Shownotes:  Connect with me: https://steliefti.com  https://twitter.com/steli  https://www.linkedin.com/in/steliefti/    Transcript:   
[00:00:00] One interesting conversation that I had with Basti in Greece was a conversation about the urge or need to be valuable for me. It's such as that. I mean, there's certain themes in my life, right? I always want it to be worthy and valuable and significant. And I also want it to always be impressive. Like impressing people was important, living a significant life. 
[00:00:27] Was always important feeling like my life is valuable that I'm using this gift and doing things with it, that it seemed worthwhile. That always, as far as I can remember, was very important to me. And for the ...

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