Inner Work with Steli Efti

The (strictly no-business) podcast that shall never become yet another to-do item in a busy CEOs life. A storytelling playground and save space for irresponsible experimentation. We willll talk martial arts, ponder the nature of ...more

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March 02, 2021 00:34:05
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056: Storytelling and the audience's capacity to open up their hearts and minds

In this episode we geek out about the art of storytelling, and it's magical ability to touch and move us, to think new thoughts, to live life in new ways. Books discussed: Story by Robert McKee Dune by Frank Herbert Shownotes: https://steliefti.com/storytelling-touch-audience/ Connect with me: https://steliefti.com  https://twitter.com/steli  https://www.linkedin.com/in/steliefti/  ...

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February 25, 2021 00:26:14
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055: Ok, now I'm punching pillows (Anger management adventures)

One of the emotions I still haven't found a good way to relate to is my anger. For most of my adult life, my way of handling anger was simply to suppress it and pretend it didn't exist at all. Getting angry meant that someone else had power over me, someone else was able to control and impact me—and I didn't want to allow and admit that. So I pretended to never get angry—not only to others, but to myself as well. Now there are blessings in disguise, and there's also such a thing as a curse in disguise. I'm great at sales. The downside of that is that I'm also great at selling myself stuff. In this case, the believe that I'm not angry. It wasn't only that I pretended to not be angry to others, I made myself belief to not be angry. But you know how it goes with emotions: If you suppress them, whatever they're meant to express comes out in other ways. In my case, it's a what I call my OLD TESTAMENT JAW. My jaw becomes very tense. Painfully tense. Out of control tense. I'm a big believer that our body can be a great source of wisdom and insight. And so I figured this tension is trying to tell me something. I spent around two painful hours trying to listen to what it had to say—and eventually (re-)learned an important lesson (that I had conveniently forgotten). Shownotes: https://steliefti.com/suppressed-anger-choking-me/ Connect with me: https://steliefti.com https://twitter.com/steli https://www.linkedin.com/in/steliefti/ ...

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February 23, 2021 00:17:43
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054: How my jaw pain forces me to face unpleasant truths

I don't know how to explain this to people who've never felt it, but I've been suffering from jaw tension for quite a while now. It comes and goes, and I never really know what triggered it until I did some deep introspection. I believe it's forcing me to confront truths I'd rather not face. Like a harsh and unforgiving teacher, it won't relent until I learn my lesson. It won't let me leave the table before I finish eating up all of the bitter truth soup in front of me. I recently had a situation where I got angry about something, but wasn't honest to myself about it. I had a fear and I pretend to not feel it, even to myself I couldn't admit that I was scared. And when I realized that, I got angry at myself for pretending, for not living my truth. It took realizing and admitting all that, until the bitter end, and only then did my jaw loosen up and I found some relief. So in a way, my body is conspiring with my higher aspirations. It's keeping me real. It makes me do the inner work even when I don't want to. Shownotes: https://steliefti.com/jaw-pain-truths/ Connect with me: https://steliefti.com  https://twitter.com/steli  https://www.linkedin.com/in/steliefti/   ...

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February 22, 2021 00:19:30
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053: I just can't relax

I was out on the balcony on a sunny day in Austin. It was a nice day. Everything was fine. Beautiful music playing. My day's work was done. And that's when it hit me: I'm good at many things—but relaxing isn't one of them. Even when you see me chilling, inside of me, there's so much tension, so many things I try to fit into any given unit of relaxation. I'm constantly reaching for more, forever striving for something else, incessantly trying to live up to some chimerical ideal, always attempting to climb an insurmountable peak. I turn everything into work, judge myself and others very harshly. It just never stops. It's just who I am today. Maybe one day I'll change. But for now, that's me. Shownotes: https://steliefti.com/i-just-cant-relax/ Connect with me: https://steliefti.com https://twitter.com/steli https://www.linkedin.com/in/steliefti/ ...

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February 21, 2021 01:03:47
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052: A year of self-discovery and intense inner work with Ryan Robinson

Today I'm talking with my good friend Ryan Robinson, one of the most disciplined people I know, and also one of the most prolific content creators. But that's not what this conversation is about. 2020 has been an intense year for Ryan, a lot of personal transformation, and I saw many parallels to changes and realizations is in my own life. Shownotes: https://steliefti.com/ryan-self-discovery/ Connect with me: https://steliefti.com https://twitter.com/steli https://www.linkedin.com/in/steliefti/ ...

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February 19, 2021 00:25:50
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051: Do your work in public

In this episode, I talk about our podcast, and why it's so different from the content we've created in the past. Most of these episodes are unstructured conversations and explorations of random themes of my life—there are no actionable takeaways, no bitesized nuggets of wisdom, and oftentimes no answers to the questions we pose. And at the same time—it's the most honest content we've ever created, the stories are more real, and while it often doesn't lead to a clean, neat work product, we're on our path to building a beautiful body of work, and it's a labor of love. Shownotes: https://steliefti.com/work-in-public/ Connect with me: https://steliefti.com https://twitter.com/steli https://www.linkedin.com/in/steliefti/ ...

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