Inner Work with Steli Efti

The (strictly no-business) podcast that shall never become yet another to-do item in a busy CEOs life. A storytelling playground and save space for irresponsible experimentation. We willll talk martial arts, ponder the nature of ...more

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December 30, 2020 00:56:47
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038: I visited an alternative healer

Here's another very personal episode. If you're looking for sales, startup, and business advice, skip this episode, it's not going to be a good use of your time. If you want to get to know me better as a human being, particularly some of my private struggles and the inner work I do, then maybe this is for you. However, be aware that it's another raw recording: an unstructured, meandering conversation without a clear ending or an actionable takeaway. I talk about my challenges with happines, visiting an alternative healer, never feeling at home anywhere, and many other things I'd usually not share publicly. So why am I sharing it now? For one, look at the name of the podcast. What you hear in this recording is inner work in progress—and that's not always pretty. And secondly, it's easier to share this now with you because this was recorded in the last week of July—and a lot has happened since. I do feel happy. I have a vision for a place that I'll make my home where I truly feel at home. I'm much more in touch with my own feelings. And finally, after I published Episode 31: Listening to myself: A bad day many of you told me that sharing my inner struggles helped you.   Shownotes: https://steliefti.com/i-visited-an-alternative-healer/ Connect with me: https://twitter.com/steli https://www.linkedin.com/in/steliefti/    ...

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December 27, 2020 00:34:25
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037: Feeling my tiredness fully

Here's a personal conversation I've had with a friend back in September. I've been feeling tense and tired for a very long time, and I wanted to allow myself to just feel this feeling of tiredness more, rather than do what I usually do: trying to overcome my tiredness, and just push it away. And when I did this, I realized that I've never really paid attention to my tiredness. I was never that aware of what tiredness actually feels like in my body. On this day, I got to know my own tiredness better, because I just stayed with it and experienced it fully. There's no major breakthrough or magic revelation in this. I'm just sharing how I experienced my own tiredness in a new way for the first time.  Looking back at it today, I can say that getting more in touch with myself, my feelings, my body has drastically improved the quality of my everyday life. I'll share much more of this in future episodes. Shownotes: https://steliefti.com/feeling-my-tiredness-fully  Connect with me: https://twitter.com/steli https://www.linkedin.com/in/steliefti/    ...

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December 14, 2020 00:36:11
036: The wild wisdom of Zorba the Greek

036: The wild wisdom of Zorba the Greek

One of my favorite reads of this year was Zorba the Greek by Nikos Kazantzakis. I love Zorba’s practical wisdom and zest for life. He manages to see the everything and everybody as a miracle worth celebrating, while also recognizing that we’re all just sacks of bones and flesh and flaws, and that everything we do is probably meaningless in the end. In many ways, he’s embodying the principles of inner work for me. If there’s a man who’s mastered the art of living in the present moment, it’s Zorba. This book has made me laugh, feel sad, think deeply, and moved me in many more ways. In this episode, I share my favorite from the book—and hopefully inspire a few of you to read this beautiful story. As always, I'd love to hear from you: https://steliefti.com/the-wild-wisdom-of-zorba-the-greek/ (includes episode transcript) https://twitter.com/steli https://www.linkedin.com/in/steliefti/    ...

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December 06, 2020 00:35:06
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035: Way of the Warrior: Getting real

Here's another Way of the Warrior episode, where I share lessons I learn while practicing martial arts. Today, I'm going to talk about the difference between theory, practice, and real-world application. There's a certain technique I've practiced many times and understood well—or so I thought. Let's just say it was a very humbling session, where the idea I carried in my head wasn't fully aligned with the reality that unfolded on the outside. In this episode, I discuss the big gap between theory, a scripted practice scenario, and the real world. Whether you practice martial arts or not—we've all had situations we confidently walked into, self-assured that we'd be able to handle this well, only to then be taught a lesson. The first instinct naturally is to say: "Oh fuck!" Now it's very easy to then go: "This didn't work out. I'm not made for this," and throw in the towel. But if you practice inner work, you do it differently. You still say: "Oh fuck..." but then you go: "Interesting. What can I learn here?" You already ate the humblepie. You already have that taste in your mouth. Now see how you can grow. Transcript: https://steliefti.com/way-of-the-warrior-getting-real/ Connect with me: https://twitter.com/steli  https://www.linkedin.com/in/steliefti  ...

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November 26, 2020 00:32:37
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034: When Siddhartha met Buddha (and walked away)

I recently read Herman Hesse's book Siddhartha, which tells the story of a man seeking enlightenment. From a young age on, together with his best friend, he sought spiritual teachers and mentors to learn and guide him. Because he was a very dedicated disciple of these different teachers, he excelled in many practices, but soon reached a point where he became dissatisfied with what they could teach him, and that despite their life-long spiritual practice, they still were far from enlightened. He embarks on yet another quest for a worthwhile teacher—this time, the Buddha. He recognizes that the Buddha is indeed enlightened, and is everything he's hoped to find in a teacher. Yet, he decides to not become a disciple of the Buddha, but instead let his own life be his teacher. And that's the moment in the story that was most interesting to me—when he decided that the best way to evolve spiritually was not to obey the instructions of a teacher, not to follow in the footsteps of an enlightened person, but to instead find his own way. To me this resonated with me because a lot of my inner work this year has been around finding myself again, building a relationship with myself, realizing how important is to spend more time with myself, instead of just being outward focused. As always, I'd love to hear from you: https://steliefti.com/when-siddhartha-met-buddha-and-walked-away/   https://twitter.com/steli https://www.linkedin.com/in/steliefti/ ...

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November 24, 2020 00:16:10
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033: The story of the boob flashing goddess

In the summer of 2019, I went on a boat trip around Ibiza with a group of good friends. Now in this episode, I tell a story about a random woman who flashed her boobs, but that's only what this is about on a superficial level. On a deeper level, it's about the attitude we bring to live: to not take ourselves too serious. To remain playful, have a bit more fun, a bit more wild, a bit more spontaneous, and the impact we can have on someone else. Connect with me: https://steliefti.com https://twitter.com/steli https://www.linkedin.com/in/steliefti/ ...

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